You’re Tired? Me Too. All About Me.

Jessica DeBano

Welcome to Olive & Smith. My little corner of the internet.

If you’re tired, you’re not alone. In today’s society, it’s normal to take on more than you can chew. We are hard-wired to think that busy-ness is good, and relaxing must mean you are lazy. Don’t get me wrong, I am in total support of the hustle, but between working 40+ hours a week, taking care of children (for my mamas out there), making time to eat right, workout, clean your house, do your laundry, shower, visit with your friends/family, catch up on reading or your favorite TV shows, and whatever else you have on your plate, the list can become endless.

Where do we find time to sleep?? If you’re like me, I catch up on my sleep during plane rides, car rides, lunch hours, pretty much wherever I can close my eyes and sleep for at least 10 minutes. I understand not everyone has this “talent”, so I’ve decided to make life a little bit easier for you. We are all tired, on some degree. And we don’t always have time to scroll through Pinterest to find a new workout, a new recipe, or even a new quote for our Instagram feed. I’ve decided to help you untangle the little knots life throws at us.

Initially, I needed a place to store recipes that I frequently use, that would be easy for me to get to (that damn Pinterest app was always closing while I was in the middle of cooking!). I wanted a space just for me. But I’ll be honest, it was pretty boring. And that’s not me. So, I invited my friends who have even more experiences, thoughts, and ideas to share. So we decided to run with it, in hopes, that one day our grandchildren can know how cool their nanas were. Or how to bake a birthday cake. Or how to create a budget. Things we all need to know, but are too tired to remember.

I don’t promise to post the best recipes because I, myself, am still learning to cook. I do promise to post recipes that you can feel good about feeding your family. I don’t promise to have the best pictures with the perfect lighting. Mainly because I live in Alaska where there is 3 months of intense darkness.

I don’t always have it all together. But I do my best.

And that is precisely who I am. My name is Jessica Rene DeBano. I’m the voice and creator behind OliveandSmith.com. I’m nearly 28 years old, and I’ve learned a few things along the way– like what not to spend your energy on, and how important 8 hours of sleep is.

 I’m a happy, mostly-healthy 27 year old.

I like to live in the moment. I enjoy doing things that make me smile, like taking Reggie on walks. I’ve always enjoyed writing. I have journals and journals of my thoughts, ideas, memories- both good and bad, and even just random words strung together that I think sound pretty. Is that poetry?

Journaling is sort of weird, I know. But as an only child, it was nice to have somewhere to get my feelings out. And going back and reading them is SO entertaining. You either laugh that you ever felt that way; Or smile because of where you are now. You got through whatever was going on, and are smarter, and more beautiful because of it.

My oldest journal is a journal I started after a tough breakup. I would write letters to “the one”. It sounds psychotic, but it really helped me realize the kind of person I was looking for. It also helped me realize who I wasn’t writing these letters to. (i.e. every guy I met between 2011-2015).

I remember writing a list about my perfect person.

“He would have forearms the size of a Disney prince, and would be able to eat an entire row of Oreos.”

That was it; my only qualifications. It sounds silly, but having a strong idea of the type of person you desire, and how they will make you feel is worth setting aside some time, being honest with yourself, and being patient until he/she comes along.

Even if I wasn’t writing to anyone in particular, it felt less weird than writing, “Dear Diary…” Maybe, it’s just as weird or even weirder. But that’s me; I am weird. and sometimes, I’m even weirder.

I use “What ifs” more than anyone, ever. It might drive my loved ones crazy, but using your imagination is a trait I hope to never lose.

For instance, I have vivid dreams every night. I even re-visit places I’ve created in my mind. I have memories, experiences, and feelings about things that don’t even exist. If that’s not Twilight Zone, then I don’t know what is.

I’ve fallen in love 3 times. But most recently, with my Yorkie- Reggie. He is “7lbs”, and almost 4 years old. He doesn’t have forearms like a Disney prince, in fact, they are more like hairy sticks. And his body is a hot dog. Plump, brown, and ready to eat.

Something you need to know: I go off on tangents, like that one there. But I promise, I am always tired and I am always me.


BORN & RAISED IN ALASKA, WHERE I CURRENTLY RESIDE WITH MY BOYFRIEND AND SMALL YORKIE. I AM PARTIAL TO HERBAL TEA, VINYASA YOGA, AND ANYTHING WITH GINGER. BESIDES STEALING MY BOYFRIEND’S CLOTHES, I LIKE TO SHOP AT SECOND HAND STORES. I’M ALL ABOUT FINDING JOY IN THE LITTLE THINGS; LIKE MATTE PINK LIPSTICK, AND LEARNING TO LIVE WELL.





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